Desire discrepancy is a set of differences about the quantity, quality, or types of experiences that a couple or a group want to have. So how can we talk about the different ways that two (or more) partners might access sexuality?

What happens when you grow up in a system (i.e. the church) that both refuses to talk with you about sexual health, and also encourages you to avoid having conversations that may result in one of you being angry before you go to bed?

We were thrilled to have Nicki and Stephen Pappas on to talk about what happens when one person in a partnership begins the deconstruction process before the other partner. This can be a really intimidating, vulnerable process for a lot of folks, and Nicki and Stephen talk about their process of simultaneously navigating exploration, discovery, hope, grief, and fear of abandonment.